Will I feel supported by this person on my bi...
Hi friends! Choosing your wedding party can be tricky business. Not only do you have to think about who you want standing next to you on one of the biggest days of your life, but you also have your loved ones’ feelings to consider. If you’re feeling confused, here are a few questions you can ask yourself:
- Will I feel supported by this person on my big day? This is probably the most important question you should ask yourself about a potential bridesmaid or groomsman. This person needs to be genuinely happy for you and supportive of your new union.
- Is he/she a responsible person? Not to make this sound like a job interview, but the truth is your wedding party needs to be responsible enough to be there when you need them and be on time. You’ll be leaning on them for certain tasks and you should be able to trust that they will get done.
- Will we be friends in 10 years? Ideally, you want your wedding party to be composed of family or lifelong friends. Think about whether this person will really be in your life for a long period of time.
- Do my parents know him or her? This may seem silly, but whether your parents know this person is generally a pretty good indicator of how strong the friendship is. There are, of course, exceptions to this rule!
- Will my relationship be over with this person if I don’t choose them? Finally, you need to think about how much this might jeopardize your relationship. Unless this person will cause real stress or harm, it’s sometimes just a better choice to include someone in your wedding party to avoid ending a valuable relationship.
Remember that there are no hard and fast rules for wedding parties. I know many couples who decided not to pick a maid of honor or best man and have everyone in their wedding party hold equal rank. I also know many who’ve decided to forego the wedding party altogether and find another creative way to involve loved ones. At the end of the day, do what’s best for you and your situation…and have fun!!
xox,
Mindy
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